Some say it’s old-fashioned. Some say it’s just too hard to do. Still, others contend its time is over. It just isn’t reasonable that two people promise they will be faithful to each other and that they will never stray. After all, no one is perfect. It is just being honest if in the beginning, we tell our partner we don’t want to be unfaithful but it could happen. Since we are imperfect, we could be tempted and even though we would never want to hurt the one we love we could. We would of course never ever give our heart to another; that can only be given once. Such was the conversation I had with a friend recently. Is this not planning to give in to temptation? I will be the first to agree that marriage is hard. There is nothing that can give such heights of joy and depths of despair. Nothing that can comfort and yet wound. Yet, even if I knew what I know now, I would still marry. There is something to be said for someone who knows you intimately so well that he can even know what you think even if you don’t verbalize it. We are imperfect and sometimes a spouse may decide he wants out. Nothing can be as crushing or devastating as being the spouse left alone; the spouse left with all those dreams broken. What can we do then? Should we just not love anyone? Loving someone means they can hurt us, they can break our hearts, wound us deeply. Would it not be better to just not love and never risk such deep pain? No, if we were to protect ourselves from the pain, we’d keep ourselves from the love, joy, and feeling of belonging that comes from loving relationships We would never learn to stay when times were tough when all within us wanted to run far away. I have always thought that Meatloaf song was so sad “I want you, I need you, but there ain’t no way I’m ever gonna love you. Don’t be sad, cause two out of three ain’t bad.” It is bad to me. Try forever, instead.